Self- love is something that you actually have to practice every day. It does not need much, but you are getting to your happy place little by little. It took long for you to develop the different patterns of thinking and emotional reacting, so it takes time to turn this the other way around. You have to be patient and compassionate with yourself, which is already a practice of self-love in itself.
Why do we speak so much about self-love activities? Because it helps you remember that you are on a path of change and it helps you with your daily practice. By now you actually had a practice of not loving yourself and you didn’t even know, you haven’t even noticed, right? It all was kind of subconscious, under the radar. This is because we were conditioned to believe and feel certain things about ourselves. We are practicing this for so long, that we do not even know we are doing it. Choosing the activities to go towards self-love is actually necessary because it allows you to consciously make an effort to go towards your goal – more self-love. Noticing the problem is a big start, doing something about it is all that it takes.
Bellow are some self-love activities that you can start:
- Taking10 minutes for yourself
Very little is needed sometimes to feel better. As moms, we have a lot of responsibilities and we get exhausted by all the hustle and bustle of the day. Find 10 minutes somewhere in the day to stop and ask yourself: what do I need right now?
- Journal
Journaling can be a good practice of letting the emotional tension go, writing about the burdens of life, decisions, looking for solutions, etc. Have a journal and pen ready somewhere and when you have some spare time, just jot down what needs to go out to he system.
- Treating your ego like a baby
What is really helpful sometimes is to treat your ego like a baby. When you notice some tension in you, just think about your ego who is like a baby. Just ask him the questions and nurture him like you would a little baby. What do you need, are you tired? Do you need a nap or some downtime? Are you hungry? Do you want to “play”?
- Meditation
Sometimes you need a quiet, peaceful, zen-like moment. Just to rest. Take 10 minutes off, put on some meditation music, and focus on yourself, on your breathing and on the moment. You can even take a short guided meditation.
- Practicing mindfulness
Practicing mindfulness goes sometimes hand in hand with meditation, but mindfulness is so much more. Trying to be present in the moment, which actually brings us back to ourselves. And instantly we feel how we are feeling. We notice it. So try practicing mindfulness when you are doing the chores, a little bit of practice goes a long way.
- 6. Talk nicely to yourself
Probably you have talked negatively to yourself for a long time now. I know this is such a pattern that is really tough to eradicate, so you probably find yourself talking negatively to yourself sometimes. It is ok. You are in the process of changing that. Whenever you find yourself talking negatively to you, try to change the thought into something positive. Try to talk positively to yourself, write down some affirmations for yourself, and repeat them daily. You will get better, I promise.
Personal development activities are actually going to help you in the long run, sometimes I do this on one day, the other day I do something else. Important is that you do something for yourself regularly, on a daily basis, as I said, this is actually an ongoing practice …
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